Sometimes even sleight relationships blossom into intimacy, not because one loves more generously, but because the other forgoes doubting.(@guyatree)


I want to tell you how this “quote” of mine arose… 

In one of his lesser read books. Coleman Barks advises his translations of Rumi are not translations so much as paraphrases, all of which arise in his mind after hearing translations of Rumi by various Iranian friends over and over, and on occasion having some weed.

I find that to be similar, but not the same, regarding Thomas Merton’s “translation” of Chuang Tzu. 

I  point this out frankly to excuse myself for having made a similar inspired paraphrase (called paraphrased only to be generous to myself, and perhaps more aptly called mangled) using as basis a tweet by Pico Iyer, whom I have tweeted about my vain alteration over his original tweet.  To date, he has not replied. 

Here is the original tweet:

”The imbalance in so many relationships comes not because one party loves more, but because one reads the other so much more clearly.”

                               ~@PicoIyer, July 22, 2017



I wanted the past to go away, I wanted
to leave it, like another country; I wanted
my life to close, and open
like a hinge, like a wing, like the part of the song
where it falls
down over the rocks: an explosion, a discovery;
I wanted
to hurry into the work of my life; I wanted to know,

whoever I was, I was

for a little while.

Mary Oliver,

Dream Work






“When the Beloved leaves, not even the sea can fill the absence.”